She Ate the Fruit...SO WHAT!
The oppression of women has been justified through a bible verse in Genesis 3:6 that says, “The woman was convinced. She saw that the tree was beautiful and its fruit looked delicious, and she wanted the wisdom it would give her. So, she took some of the fruit and ate it. Then she gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it, too.” Centuries later, women have been left out of boardrooms but granted access to bedrooms. They have been left powerless. God’s heart for women is to be a Father to His daughters and if they should choose, God desires to prepare them to be wives. Being a Kingdom wife goes beyond the submission and condemnation of the fall of Eve, it means being a helpmate to a husband in a beautiful story of redemption.
Throughout history women have been the wicked temptresses that would seduce poor and weak men out of their destiny. Of course, they should be silenced, of course they should be confined to the kitchen, and barefoot no less. How much time have we wasted stifling the wonderous role of a wife? How much condemnation have we placed on her to smother her true purpose? Eve, the first wife was named by God a “Helpmate” a name after the Holy Spirit, who is called our “Comforter” and our “Help”. What an honor it is to be created in the mind of God and emulate His very character. Kingdom wives, like the Holy Spirit, are the helpers within a marriage to find the purpose and vision of that marriage, and see to it that it fulfills its destiny.
A kingdom wife can often feel like a lamb off to the slaughter. Submission is a godly thing to do in a marriage but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t feel like hell sometimes. The weight of staying silent when she knows she’s right, following her husband even when he’s making a wrong turn, and entrusting her entire life to a vision that may not be her own. It’s extremely difficult, but on the flip side of her sacrifice is a God who watches all that she does, comforts her in her uncertainty, and honors her persistent “yes” to her husband. No matter the sacrifice, a kingdom wife knows that the promises of God will cover her as she is covered by her husband. She may not always trust the path her husband takes, but she can always trust that God, the Head of both their lives, will never fail. (1 Corinthians 11:3 “But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.”)
Why marriage? Two lives smashing into one another, picking up a thousand pieces to form one life is INSANE! Of course, it’s a God idea, it doesn’t conform to our logic. It’s a beautiful thing. Two people with completely different roles but of equal value operating in the will of God for a specific assignment that will ultimately lead souls back to Christ. God loves to group things: The Holy Trinity, The Five-Fold ministry of the church, there’s even a promise of His presence for where there are two or more gathered in His name. God created the power of unity and marriage is the strongest reflection of that. So, kingdom wives all over the world can stand next to their husbands with a knowing smile and with the confidence of their Heavenly Father, because submission may mean sacrifice but it also means power.