Many of us can fill books with the things that we don’t know and it’s when we contemplate on these things that we begin to doubt our ability as parents and teachers. We are trying to raise brave and courageous children in this world while trying to overcome our own inadequacies and fear. At times we may feel unqualified to raise the next generation but when fear kicks in we can trust that what we’ve established so far will stand. Here are the best three ways to fight doubt.
Trust the Process
The speed of life is passing us by faster and faster. Fast food, express delivery, streaming TV, it seems that faster is better so that we don’t waste time but, this can affect the way we parent our children. We should never try to keep up with the pace of the world. The bible teaches us that all things come in their due season (Galatians 6:9) so we should be encouraged that as we build the foundation of a kingdom home, we can trust the process. It’s not our jobs to rapidly grow our children up, we aren’t graded on the speed but on the endurance of the process. Doubt can creep in and discourage us but, slow and steady will always win the race. We will reap what we sow and just as we can’t force the blooming of a flower or demand that summer suddenly appear, we have to trust the process of parenting.
Trust the Word
Most parents run out to purchase the latest books on parenting to feel less overwhelmed about this major life change. Nothing prepares for us parenthood; it is the most frightening yet rewarding gift. When we are at a loss on how to raise our children we often use the excuse that parenting doesn’t come with a manual, and yet, we have the Word of God for that very reason. We learn the importance of discipline (Proverbs 13:24), about how useless it is to worry (Philippians 4:6-7), and the rewards of honor (Exodus 20:12). The Word of God never fails, in fact it will be the only thing that remains, so we must trust it. It is the best insurance policy for our parenting and eliminates all doubt.
One of the best ways to eradicate doubt in the way that we parent is to look upon our very own relationship with our Father. As children of God we go through our own process in growing and obeying our Father. It isn’t easy but it is a constant reminder of the beauty of parenting. The way we raise this generation should be a reflection of our own relationship with God and should encourage us to believe that just as God keeps us, He will keep our children. Our trust in God leaves no room for doubt, no matter what our family dynamics are. Single parent, foster parent, faithful teacher, blended family etc. it all has to surrender to the power and process of God’s Word and design.
Through our position as children of God we are qualified to also be parents in God. This wonderful relationship with our Father is all the foundation we need to trust our parenting skills and keep doubt at bay. So, trust the process, trust God’s word, and trust Him knowing that when you are weak His strength upholds you. Parenting isn’t easy but it sure is worth it.